My pets are Myne and they follow MY rules!

The subject line today comes from an conversation with a Dom last nite in Second Life. He was telling Me how My pets need to behave there since they are 'slaves'. Paladin is always most excellently behaved and he is never ever disrespectful. He is a very proper person anyways and the little bit of correction that he has ever needed is to say 'yes Mystress' instead of 'yup' or 'uhhuh' or some other affirmative response. And the same with 'no Mystress' when asked a question or prodded on a response of some sort.

Kajira robert tends to be more of a ... well...'smart ass' then Paladin and he is not as yet trained (even though he's been around more years cyberwise) to give the proper response. But then... I've not yet had the chance to give him the very real physical reinforcement that I have to Paladin. (smiles). But I do expect to one day, and I'm sure that will quickly fix things. (wicked grin)

What I did find in the conversation last nite, was how much I resented anyone telling Me how My pets are to behave when they are with Me. The Dom said that they HAVE to kneel at all times unless they are defending Me, or serving Me. My response is that they have protocols that I have set for them.. and those are the ones that they must obey. Be it cyber, or real life with Paladin. And I don't like anyone telling Me what I HAVE to do with them. Yup...it wasn't that the Dom pissed Me off.. it was the rules of expectation of others. Now, I do understand that he was saying that this was especially in effect in 'Gorean' or "BDSM" areas. Okay... My answer to that, is I simply won't go there unless I really wish to. And to be honest, I doubt that I will. For Myself, I like the strength of My slaves standing behind Me, both of them taller then I. This give Me a feeling of safety that I enjoy. If I am sitting, then yes, I do want them always kneeling. And sometimes, even when I am standing.. but it's by MY choice, and not some one else's. I do understand the rules of certain areas... but if My pet has a collar on, that means they belong to Me.. and I am their Commander in Chief and they are responsible for behaving as I desire.

All of these 'rules' are what kept Me from being a Domme before I became one. Because so many folks said what I was going to 'have' to do. Have a contract, make sure they had a safe word, hurt them till they used it so that they would know and so would I. But as a sub Myself... I never had a contract.. and 'stop' was a good safe word if I ever needed it...which I didn't.. (although there was once I should have and didn't.. and I learned) I always figured if I was going to be the boss... then I would get to make the rules and not have to follow someone else's idea of what those rules were going to be!

Paladin has shown Me, and allowed Me to learn what sort of Domme I really am and he has accepted My rules, mostly without comment or complaint. I have had to change a few along the way as I have learned the practicality of them. Like wanting him to be 'commando' at work. (smiles) Paladin is built such that when he is aroused...it shows no matter what he is wearing, and as much as I do love the idea of that at his work, it's not practical for him to not be able to stand up or go into a business meeting when he needs to. (sigh). So some rules that I might like to have, I have to let go. But.. then, like this past weekend, where he had to be commando the whole time do rather make up for it. Well....mostly. (grin)

So last nite, I stood up to this Dom and told him that I thanked him for his imput.. but that My slaves would do as I command of them, and that I wouldn't be taking them into those areas where someone else would be telling Me what I had to do with them, nor taking a risk that someone else might try to interfere with them. Kajira robert has free rein when I am not there to go as he wishes, but when I am there, then he must stick with Me unless I otherwise specify. Same with Paladin. Just as in real life, he must never be further then I can reach to touch him unless I tell him to be.

The Dom was being polite and helpful.. and I do appreciate that. But I did find it fascinating how quickly My hackles rose at being told what I had to do with them. Nope. Myne means MYNE and that means MY rules.. and no one else's are in effect unless I choose to allow it.

So.. from being a submissive... I have grown and I find I am growing ever stronger all the time.
And I am possessive and hardheaded when it comes to My two slaves, be they cyber or real. And I expect the both of them to always behave in a way that makes Me proud of them, for their behavior does reflect on Me.

I bid everyone out there a good day and hope all is well in their worlds.
Tonight, I go to Paladin's.. and we'll catch up on Deadliest Catch and soak in the tub,
and have an early eve as Paladin didn't sleep well last nite due to a car alarm going on and off all nite. So he won't be posting this eve., but he should be tomorrow.

Best to all,
Mystress