Of Being a Mystress and a Healer...

Greetings to all dear readers... sorry for my absence again. So many things seem to pop up in life, and I forget to update here, or I am not sure what to write about. But this subject has been on my mind for a while, and it seems a good time to delve into it, per the subject line.

As time has passed, and I have gotten around a bit in the D/s community both locally when there was a Domme group, and especially now a days in Second Life, I've come across a lot of different kinds of Owners and subs.

They run the gambit from those that like to give and take pain and/or humiliation, to those that need a softer, more emotional and personal sort of relationship, much like what Paladin and I have. And every combination between. In my case, I went looking specifically for a 'pleasure slave'.... and. boy howdy, does he do that well in spades! Everyone finds their erotica in different ways, and all are right for them. We have our own ways that have evolved what is right for us. We are both open minded, and willing to try some new things. So.. I was not looking to give pain to someone. I just wanted to be served as a Queen.. and Paladin again, is always is smart, sexy, courtly, playful, obedient and highly sensual. What a mix!

Now. in Second Life... the gambit is much wider.. I mean the creativity is both inspiring, and sometimes too creepy to handle. Every kind of device you can imagine.. plants and Krakens, all with some sort of sex on their minds.. well. do plants have minds??? I guess instinct in their cases. There are ways to cause pain and humiliation that have made me nauseous. Not my style..

Most every one knows that I am a Reiki Master, and in Second Life, I have a Reiki Center and Memorial Garden as well. I now also serve as Mother Protector of Chapter House at Atreides. This position means that I help train the Mistress's that come there, and that I am the protector of all the women there as well. I am deeply honored to hold this position. I have already met some wonderfully kind and helpful folks, and I find I enjoy my duties there very much.

So, as to the subject line for tonight.... I have had folks there ask me, how I could be a Mistress and a Healer at the same time? Well, again, it has to do with my own style, my own boundaries, and my oath to be of service and heal. I can demand exact behavior, and I can discipline as needed both in Rl and in SL, and not cross my lines as a Healer. I don't know why some folks seem to think that all Power Exchange or D/s situation have to involve things that degrade or hurt people.

I was called a "Disney Mistress' once by a sub,.(I might have mentioned this before) and I was actually rather happy with that. But I told him. I am really a "Mystress" not so much a Mistress.. as I like to maintain both mystery, and some mysticism. *smiles* Now I do believe that we all serve our purpose, slaves or Owner's exactly as we are.

In my case, Paladin is also a Reiki practitioner, and its fairly common for us to send Reiki to someone during our time together. He does all of his duties with only occasional snorts of displeasure. I will say he was most excellent when he learned he'd being taught to give pedicures on Labor Day and jumped into it with much aplomb! My ex Mistress came to visit us, and she taught him how to do it *smiles* it was great fun.. and tonight, I brought home the needed items for him to give me another one, as she had brought hers. So.. that's a another evolvement for us. We'll see how it goes.

Almost time for him to come home, as I am at his place on my laptop as I type this.
Best to all out there.. and welcome to any new readers, especially to Mikka and Kimka, two very sweet girls I've met recently in SL. And a hello from any at Atredies that appear here as well, as several of them have been given the blog address.

Safe paths,
Mystress